Chapter 11: Walking the Talk and Keepin’ on Talking

Posted by admin on March 26th, 2010 | 3 Comments »

There are two very important attributes to being a leader in my opinion.  The first is “walking your talk,”  or in other words “are you full of shit or are you not.”  The second one, “keepin on talking” as I like to call it, is what I’ve had trouble being good at and what I was up against these past two weeks.

In order to be an effective leader, you have to have something that you want to say, a message, an idea that you want to bring to the world.  And part of doing that is to “keep on talking” about your message.  To be unabashed so to speak, in your commitment and confidence in spreading the word because you, the leader, believes in it so much.  This also plays beautifully into the theme of my last post which was the “Me” of music (see chapter 10 for details.)

Now, this has always been the hard part for me in being a leader.  I get scared to “keep on talking.”  Anybody else feel that way sometimes? The voice in your head says “who are you to think that you have something to say?”

This came up for me because these past two weeks, I have been in the process of hiring interns for a 3 month unpaid internship with the possibility of compensation after 3 months if they do a good job. What this has required is talking a lot about who I am, what my business is about and seeing whether it resonates with people.

I’m hiring people because I’ve reached a tipping point in my business where the rapid progress I’ve been generating has in turn, created more and more things for me to handle that I can’t handle all on my own unless I want to give up practicing and sleeping.

So I’ve had to face some fears about me “keepin on talking” about what my mission is.  Some people have been pissed off that I’m not a corporate business where they will spend most of their time making copies and coffee.  They are afraid of being “scammed” and because I’m not a household name (yet) they’re scared of being taken advantage of.  Unfortunately they are missing an opportunity to learn a lot.

So I’ve had to be really clear with people: this is a grassroots business.  You will learn a lot, and I want your creativity and passion so that you can contribute to this very exciting journey of marketing, branding, booking, performing, gigging, living, learning and breathing music.

And lo and behold, in facing my fears and confidently telling the truth about who I am, where I am at, and what I am offering, it seems like I am assembling a team of excited, intelligent and passionate people who I’m sure I will learn a lot from as well.

What have I learned?  That believing in yourself and being honest and humble about who you are…vulnerable so to speak, you attract the right people into your circle.  I’m very excited to start working with these very passionate people who share a deep commonality with me: the deep love of music.

Welcome aboard.

(Just to address it so it’s not hanging in the air, I said that I would publish my next 6 week radical plan last Friday, and I haven’t yet.  It’s because I am still solidifying it, and as soon as I solidify it, I will publish it, probably by next Friday. )

Chapter 10: What I’m Learning from Tom Jackson

Posted by admin on March 23rd, 2010 | 1 Comment »

Tom Jackson separates the reason that we (musicians and music lovers) do music into 4 “M’s.”

The Music       The Message       The Money       The Me

I’m going to talk about the “Me” because I’ve always had an issue with the “me.” A part of me has always felt like it’s self indulgent to be a musician or an artist. Like “who am I to think that I can/should/deserve to do this?” Anybody else ever feel like that?

Well, what Tom said is that the “me” could either one of two things. The first “me” is the “ME…” the look at “ME.” The “ME is performing so clap for ME.” We all hate this “me,” and this is not the “me” that he speaks about. The “me” that he speaks about is the “me” that has always known, that has always felt that I am here to do this…that my love for music is so deep it must be my calling and in order to honor the gifts that I was given by the Universe, or God if you don’t have a problem with that word, then I have to DO SOMETHING about it!

I used to think that I was selfish for thinking that I could be a world-renowned musician because I thought that everybody’s dream was to be some kind of performer if they really could choose anything. Wrong.

When lived in Colorado, I met a guy who told me his dream in life was to climb the 7 highest peaks in the world, and that he had already tackled 4 of them, K2 included. I thought about the fact that this dream was the apotheosis of what he thought was dream worthy…his ultimate goal in life, to climb all 7 peaks.

Now, I would never want to do that. I have absolutely no interest whatsoever in mountain climbing. Skiing down a mountain, yes please. Climbing up a mountain. No fucking way.

My point is obvious: not everyone dreams about the same thing so maybe there’s a reason for why we have certain dreams, desires or callings in life: because that’s what we are supposed to do! We dream about it, yearn for it, desire it because we are supposed to have it!  Me! Me me me me me is supposed to be doing this because that’s what fulfills my hear the most!  And the truth is is that if I didn’t do my hearts calling, I would be cheating God so to speak, or cheating my life; turning my back on that which gives me the most fire and most fulfillment.

So thank you Tom Jackson for reminding me of “Me.”

More coming…